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Internet Safety for Parents
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WARNING about cell phones. It seems that everyone 12 and up has a cell phone and most have text and picture capability. A disturbing trend has emerged with kids taking photos of their genitals or others and sending them in picture messages on their cell phones to other friends. Those images constitute child pornography and sending them is distribution of child pornography. In some cases they are being charged depending on the circumstances. This could cause your teen to have to register as a sex offender and have a felony conviction on their record for a sex offense. Please talk to your child about this to stop it before it starts and please monitor your child's cell phone activity.
There are several sites already set up to provide safety information for parents, children and teens. Rather than recreate them, please go to our safety links page and utilize the links to go to site we feel provide the needed information.
Tips and Information for parents with Children on the Internet
In modern times this means if you are a parent. 67% of preschoolers, 91% of elementary and 97% of high school students use the internet. It seems the Internet has become a necessary part of life, and why not, there is a lot of great information to be had there. It's like the NCMEC Video Julie's Journey says, "its a tool that has to be used properly.", and turning your child loose on the internet without any guidance or instruction is like giving them the keys to your car and never giving them a driving lesson. They could figure it out, but at what cost? Sometimes it is at the cost of their life. There are some tips that are important measures to help protect your child.
1. Put the computer in a common area. This means the living room, a family room, or any room where people commonly use. This puts the computer and your child in your direct vision and gives the first level of monitoring. NEVER allow your child to have a computer in their room. This allows for too much privacy and the opportunity to do things you would not approve of. Remember 64% of children ages 12-17 say that they do things online that they would not want their parents to know about!
2. Supervise your children's computer usage. Filtering software is a good tool, and one that probably should be used, but don't rely solely on it. For every filter, there is a way to over ride it. Usually there are internet sites that tell your children how to overcome the parental controls. There is nothing to say they have any right to privacy on the internet, it is your home and they are your child. The best monitor is your eyes watching what they are doing. This also provides for good family time.
3. Become computer savvy. If your child knows more about the computer and internet than you, let them teach you what they know, then seek out other sources to become more knowledgeable than your child. We realize technology can be scary for many adults, but it's incumbent on you as a parent to know more than your child. If you know more than your child, teach them ways to be safe.
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Children should never give out personal information on the internet. Make sure they know personal information includes not only name, address, phone number, etc., but also things like screen names, passwords, the school they go to, and any other information that could help someone track them.
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Children should know they don't have to respond to any message, email or communications send to them. They should know that if you are not monitoring they should immediately seek you out to handle and be aware of messages from people they don't know, or you have not approved them to communicate with.
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Children should not believe anything they receive from an unknown source on the internet, this includes random websites they may come across. Have them show you what sites they visit and what they know how to do online.
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Go to Netsmartz.org or NCMEC.org and get information to teach them. You can also find games they can play which promote internet safety on these sites. There are several ways to get needed information at Netsmartz recommended resources, NCMEC's publications or at our Safety Documents & Publications
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Know who your children are communicating with, and check to verify. If you have allowed them to use an instant messaging and/or chat program, make sure the settings have the archive function turned on so you can review the chats later. Our recommendation is that they not use them, but you have to weight the pros and cons for your family. If they do use these services, talk to them about never meeting in person with anyone they first "met" online or that you do not know they are communicating with online, no matter what that person threatens or promises. Also become familiar with the lingo. Chat and message language is almost like a foreign language. Go to Educational Links to learn the most commonly used acronyms.
4. Open a line of communication with your child. This means that they should feel comfortable coming to you and openly talking about internet issues. Although as a parent it may be difficult, your child should know that even if they disobeyed you initially and got into a situation that is over their head, they can come to you for help in getting out. This likely means using it as a learning experience without a discipline you would normally use. If you take away their internet or something else important, or whatever discipline you normally do, this means coming to mom and dad is trouble. Be understanding and help them through it, it may just save their life.
5. Have clearly defined Internet Rules. You can create your own rules or print the Internet safety pledge. The best ones are provided by NetSmartz and available on their website. Click Here to open the link in a new window or you can find them under Documents & Publications above. For some reason children do better at following contracts and put more effort into them. Have these rules posted on or near the monitor so they are visible whenever your child is on the computer.
6. Be in control of your Internet. All internet accounts in the home should be in the parent's name with the parents holding the primary screen name, controlling passwords and setting the blocking and/or filtering devices. The screen name the child does have should be nondescript, gender and age neutral so as not to identify the child user.
7. Know the website. Although they are often lengthy and cumbersome, always read the privacy policy of any website before providing personal information. Make sure the connection is secure before providing any credit-card information. This is important not only to your child, but to you for identity theft. Many criminals will built a website very similar to a popular one like "Ebay" and send out a notice for you to update information. Never do this without directly contacting the company. The vast majority of legitimate websites do not use this method. Look in the phone book or use an independent search to find the company and make sure they did not send the email.
8. Apply all the old rules. All the things you have been taught about safety in general still applies here. The Internet is just another way the predator is using to target your child. The same old fashion safety tips apply. One thing to keep in mind is that studies show the scare them with stranger danger does not work. Talk frankly with kids, but you don't have to make them terrified to get your point across, as a matter of fact that is probably more counterproductive than helpful. Also the idea that the biggest danger comes from someone your and your child don't know is one of the biggest myths surrounding child safety. The fact is that 89% of children sexually exploited are exploited by someone they know, 25% from a family member and 64% from a family acquaintance. Only 11% came from actual "strangers."
9. Be Involved, this is really #1. The biggest factor is to be involved and proactive in your child's life. If you read down to this point, you have already reduced their risk of being a victim. There is no 100% way to protect you child at all times, but the majority of predators go for the easy target. Any measures you take will reduce the chance they will target your child. The more measures you take and the more education you both get, the more you lessen their chances of being exploited.
Visit NetSmartz.org and NCMEC.org, and our Documents & Publications section for more great safety information.
